I suppose I could say that today’s article is a little subjective. After all, an article about what makes you unlikable is bound to be influenced by my opinion on people in general. However, it’s not that bad, I’ve asked my tantric massage pals to contribute too. Even where they haven’t managed to, I kind of know what each of them think anyway; we’re all very good friend.
Don’t give your life story!
Being masseuses, like any similar service, you’re bound to hear this and that. I hear my clients’ troubles and woes all the time, but it’s not a problem in that capacity. A tantric massage session is often a type of therapy and we’re all about you and sorting out your relaxation needs. This point I’m making (in fact most of them here) is not about my clients. It’s about people in general. Well, more to the point, it’s about if you were chatting to me in a bar and wanting to get to know me.
If you’re going to sit opposite me and tell me all about yourself and your problems, without being prompted to, it’s a problem and I won’t like you. So you can use this when you’re dating, or just in your general life. Don’t make the other person feel like your therapist. If they way to know more about something you’ve told them, chances are they’ll ask you. Let them guide you, and don’t forget to ask about them too.
Not being open-minded!
This is one of the biggest things that make people unlikeable. This is especially so for we girls in the tantric massage community. If you’re one of those people who makes up their mind and then closes it down to any suggestion that would suggest otherwise, you’re going to be extremely unlikable. Being open-minded is very important, both in your personal life and your work life. Be willing to listen to others opinions and you’ll find that even if you disagree with them, you’ll be respected for keeping an open mind.
I can’t stand gossips! For the best part their wrong anyway! I can always tell that an acquaintance will never become a close friend if they gossip about other people with me. I’m very shrewd too, I’ll let them say what they’re going to say and just fail to join in or try to get more information out of them. Gossips love it when they hook you and you want to know more, it’s why they do it. Try not to be a gossip because you’ll never earn the respect of anyone. Most people are discerning enough to know that if someone is gossiping to you, they are no doubt gossiping about you too!